Becoming more social, one step at a time.

As I  mention in my "About Me" section I've always been a fairly unsocial person, playing video games after High School instead of hanging out with people and doing new things to make my life seem more exciting to other people. I would have a small click of friends at a time and not hang out with other people but I did go BMXing with friends in senior more and more often becoming a bit more sociable.

My biggest problems were confidence in social situations and not being able to read people. I've even had dates that went terrible because I couldn't look the other person in the eye and I'd ask questions instead of taking control of the situation. The part that is really weird is I keep getting myself into sales jobs which I always found strange since the biggest factors of selling are confidence and being able to read people. My lack of these two traits ultimately led me to getting fired for the first time from a car dealership about a month before my "trial" period was over. So after that happened I decided my social skills had to change and here were my big objectives to work on.

1. Become more confident in everything I do regardless of if I know what the heck I'm doing or not.

2. Learn how to converse with people better so I actually have something to say during extended conversations.

3. Learn how to read people, read the conversation to understand the person better and learn body language so I can keep their interest an hour into a conversation.

I've been working on these parts of social interaction a lot watching Youtube videos, reading articles, and lots and lots of social interactions in and out of work. After doing cold approaches on the opposite sex and trying to start and hold extended conversations over and over it's changed my over all confidence level tremendously.

I've been doing several things to help me in the social experiment to help myself and if you have similar traits as me you can work on them as well the same way.

1. As you pass people look them directly in the eye until they look away (you'll be surprised how quickly most people look away) If someone confronts you about it just say they reminded you of someone you used to know.

2. Cold approach people as much as possible start out with something simple like what time is it and when you see any girl you think is remotely attractive go up to her and tell her she's (cute/hot/attractive) but make it clear right up front you're attracted to her.

3. Don't fear rejection from anyone what's the worst that can happen? They'll say no and both of you walk away to live your lives as separate people and possibly never meet again. Make it into a game! If you're having fun with the conversation they will as well.

There's tons of tricks but start with those learning stuff like this can only improve the quality of your life in the long run. As always questions or comments are welcome tell me your tricks and next time I make a post about social experiments I may bring up your idea.